FORTY THINGS YOU CAN DO TO ADD SPICE TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

This year’s Valentine’s day is going to look different for many. It will be mostly the same for us, though! Takeout sushi, lots of snuggles, maybe some flowers, and sparkling cider instead of champagne. After being together for ten years, I don’t hate it!

But there is something to be said for mixing things up and keeping the romance alive in a relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with routine, comfort, and friendship in a long term relationship, but making sure things don’t get boring or stale can be hard. Especially when you are working from home, stuck in a pandemic, and unable to do things you may have done before.

There are always going to be ebbs and flows in a marriage, but it is so important to make your relationship a priority. It takes time, effort, understanding, and hard work. But sometimes, that work can be extra fun…

If you have fallen off the flavor wagon and need some ideas to get some spice back in your life, I’ve got 40 ideas for you! Many are free, lots of them take minimal effort, and all of them will hopefully help to bring you closer.

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40 THINGS YOU CAN DO TO KEEP THE SPICE ALIVE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

1. SEND SCANDALOUS PHOTOS WHILE THEY ARE ON A CONFERENCE CALL OR AT THE GYM.
2. WEEKLY DATE NIGHT, EVEN AT HOME. SET A DATE, AND TAKE TURNS PLANNING WHAT YOU WILL DO.
3. DANCE TOGETHER TO ALL THE SONGS YOU USED TO
4. BUY TOYS TOGETHER – TRY THIS, THIS, OR THIS.
5. PLAY STRIP MARIO KART (OR OTHER FUN VIDEO GAME).
6. SLAP THAT BOOTY EVERY TIME YOU WALK BY.
7. GO TO BED AT THE SAME TIME AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE.
8. SHOWER TOGETHER, EVEN WITHOUT SEX.
9. COMPLIMENT THEM OUT OF THE BLUE.
10. CHALLENGE YOURSELVES TO SEX EVERY DAY FOR A WEEK.
11. ROLE PLAY – GET CREATIVE. MAKE IT FUN. EVEN WITH CHARACTERS OR SCENARIOS THAT SEEM SILLY.
12. GIVE EACH OTHER 20 MINUTE MASSAGES. HOLD OFF TILL THE END. THIS MASSAGE OIL AMAZING.
13. NEVER STOP THE INNUENDO. MAKE THE JOKES.
14. DRESS UP FOR EACH OTHER ONCE IN A WHILE, ESPECIALLY IF YOU BOTH WORK FROM HOME.
15. SEXTING! DO IT WHILE WATCHING NETFLIX AND SEE WHO MAKES THE FIRST MOVE.
16. HEAD TO TIKTOK AND LEARN TO TAKE DIY BOUDOIR PHOTOS LIKE THIS, THIS AND THIS.
17. TALK ABOUT THE SEX AFTER – SHARE ALL THE DETAILS ABOUT YOUR FAVORITE PARTS.
18. BUY OR MAKE LITTLE GIFTS FOR ONE ANOTHER. GIVE EACH OTHER A BUDGET AND GIVE THEM TO ONE ANOTHER ON DATE NIGHT.
19. LEAVE SEXY LOVE NOTES IN RANDOM SPOTS FOR THEM TO FIND.
20. CREATE A SEX CODE WORD WHEN YOU ARE FEELING IN THE MOOD – SAY, “I’M REALLY CRAVING SOME GRILLED PINEAPPLE” WHENEVER AROUND WHOEVER. ALWAYS FUN AROUND THE IN-LAWS.
21. ANNUAL TRIP AWAY WITHOUT KIDS. EVEN IF IT IS JUST A SINGLE NIGHT IN A HOTEL.
22. CREATE A PRIVATE PINTEREST BOARD TO SHARE AND SAVE LINGERIE, TOYS, POSITIONS, SONGS, ETC.
23. GET A BRAZILIAN WAX AND SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER.
24. CALL YOUR PARTNER INTO THE BEDROOM/BATHROOM FOR “HELP”. BE NAKED AND READY FOR A QUICKY.
25. SURPRISE YOUR PARTNER BY BEING NAKED UNDER THE SHEETS WHEN THEY CRAWL INTO BED.
26. FLIRT. GET HANDSY. KISS. DO THESE LIKE WHEN YOU WERE DATING.
27. ASK IF THEY REMEMBER THAT ONE REALLY AMAZING NIGHT… AND THEN HAVE TO FIND OUT WHAT REALLY STICKS OUT IN THEIR HEAD.
28. WEAR LINGERIE OFTEN. HERE, HERE, AND HERE ARE MY FAVORITE PLACES TO SHOP.
29. MAKE OUT. NO SEX. JUST HOT AND STEAMY KISSING
30. PUT ON A GREAT PAIR OF LEGGINGS AND LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE COMMANDO.
31. FANCY A GAME NIGHT? TRY OUT SEXOPOLY. YOU WON’T REGRET IT.
32. GET A BABY SITTER FOR A FEW HOURS AND JUST GO TO A HOTEL. HAVE SEX, TAKE A NAP, DO IT AGAIN, AND GO HOME. YOU WILL FEEL LIKE TEENAGERS.
33. READ SOME DIRTY BOOKS, AND THEN HAVE YOUR PARTNER READ YOUR FAVORITE CHAPTERS.
34. TRUTH OR DARE – FULL ON SEX IS OFF LIMITS, BUT EVERYTHING ELSE IS ON THE TABLE.
35. SEND A GOOGLE CALENDAR INVITE FOR A SPICY EVENING.
36. TAKE TURNS – ONE NIGHT IS ONLY ABOUT YOU, THE OTHER IS ONLY ABOUT THEM.
37. IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING TO GET INTIMATE, MAKE A REWARD CHART FOR SEX. WHEN YOU REACH A CERTAIN NUMBER, TAKE A GETAWAY.
38. FLASH THEM WHILE THEY ARE WORKING, PLAYING GAMES, COOKING DINNER. GIVE THEM A QUICK LITTLE DANCE.
39. GRAB THIS KAMA SUTRA SCRATCH OFF AND GET TO WORK! JUST BE SURE TO HANG IT IN A CLOSET.
40. CREATE A CHEAT SHEET OF ALL OF YOUR FAVORITE THINGS YOUR PARTNER DOES, IN AND OUT OF THE BEDROOM, AND HAVE THEM MAKE ONE FOR YOU!

If you are looking for some tunes to get you in the mood, check out this playlist! You guys submitted nearly 500 songs that you loved, and I narrowed it down to the most requested here. There are a few fun one, lots of dirty ones, some romantic, and plenty of spice. Beware. It is definitely explicit!

And that is just the beginning. You can get as creative and spicy as suits you and your partner. If you have any other tried and true ideas, drop them below in the comments!